in any kind of relationship, it's always harmful when one side gives more than the other. because it is just going to be the root of a possible conflict.
no matter how patient one can be, there's always a limit to it. there's a limit to how much you put in, until you realise there hasn't been enough coming from the other side. unless this person in question is oblivious to the imbalance, or doesn't mind giving more.
everyone is selfish. everyone wants the other party to give more. everyone's waiting for the other party to start giving more. nobody wants to be on the losing end. i'm like that. You are like that. You and You are like that.
an equal amount of effort requires time. a luxury most of us don't have. every minute and every second counts. you expect the other party to understand that every minute of your time given to him/her, they should be grateful for the time you made for them. because you lost the opportunity to do something else with that time. in some cases, though, the other person doesn't see it. you are taken for granted. this time, is might as well wasted.
an equal amount of trust requires a mutual understanding, the same frequency. 'trust', as we grow older, seems to have taken on a broader definition, a more loose one in fact, and has become a circle that encompasses more people in our social network. it's like water in a glass. pour it into a bigger glass and and the level goes down. because i trust more people, i trust them less. i think You would understand. more positively, there are always a handful whom you can trust completely and tell them everything, knowing it will be between just the two of you. you know you can't tell certain people, because their glasses are too big.
on an entirely different note, exams are coming. ok im gonna sound really nerdy and bookwormish. IM FROM CBE OKAY!!! screw cbe. ive been in competitive schools all my life....dammit. why am i even going into the politics of academics...
anyway in cbe, everyone gets insensitive during this period, or perhaps, oversensitive. all i ask for is a bit of understanding. you may not have done much revision, but neither have i. nobody's ever happy with the amount of revision they have done. 'amount' is subjective. to some people ahem, nothing's ever enough. i don't need sarcasm, unpleasure, or discontentment. i might have studied for a module which you haven't, but that doesn't mean i already started on those that you have. that doesn't mean you can be unhappy with me/sour about that. i am just as kancheong as you are. i dont even have the luxury of external help. perhaps, i am being oversensitive too. but i wish to hear more motivational comments, rather than prickly ones. insensitivity/oversensitivity is not gonna get us anywhere. i would help if i could. i wish someone could help me too.
no matter how patient one can be, there's always a limit to it. there's a limit to how much you put in, until you realise there hasn't been enough coming from the other side. unless this person in question is oblivious to the imbalance, or doesn't mind giving more.
everyone is selfish. everyone wants the other party to give more. everyone's waiting for the other party to start giving more. nobody wants to be on the losing end. i'm like that. You are like that. You and You are like that.
an equal amount of effort requires time. a luxury most of us don't have. every minute and every second counts. you expect the other party to understand that every minute of your time given to him/her, they should be grateful for the time you made for them. because you lost the opportunity to do something else with that time. in some cases, though, the other person doesn't see it. you are taken for granted. this time, is might as well wasted.
an equal amount of trust requires a mutual understanding, the same frequency. 'trust', as we grow older, seems to have taken on a broader definition, a more loose one in fact, and has become a circle that encompasses more people in our social network. it's like water in a glass. pour it into a bigger glass and and the level goes down. because i trust more people, i trust them less. i think You would understand. more positively, there are always a handful whom you can trust completely and tell them everything, knowing it will be between just the two of you. you know you can't tell certain people, because their glasses are too big.
on an entirely different note, exams are coming. ok im gonna sound really nerdy and bookwormish. IM FROM CBE OKAY!!! screw cbe. ive been in competitive schools all my life....dammit. why am i even going into the politics of academics...
anyway in cbe, everyone gets insensitive during this period, or perhaps, oversensitive. all i ask for is a bit of understanding. you may not have done much revision, but neither have i. nobody's ever happy with the amount of revision they have done. 'amount' is subjective. to some people ahem, nothing's ever enough. i don't need sarcasm, unpleasure, or discontentment. i might have studied for a module which you haven't, but that doesn't mean i already started on those that you have. that doesn't mean you can be unhappy with me/sour about that. i am just as kancheong as you are. i dont even have the luxury of external help. perhaps, i am being oversensitive too. but i wish to hear more motivational comments, rather than prickly ones. insensitivity/oversensitivity is not gonna get us anywhere. i would help if i could. i wish someone could help me too.
posted by yanjun @ 9:47 AM
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At 6:54 PM ,
zdevil said...
Ya i understand how u feel...i gt the same feeling too.. when exams are near, sometimes u can see the true colours of some. they become really insensitive.. all they wan and care abt is their own.. self interest had swallowed them... bt i guess that is life bah.. learn it the hard way..
On the other hand, dun be discouraged about the other party not giving u wat u deserved. There are all kinds of ppl.. some will return ur kindness with even more kindness while some will just take advantage of u. i am sure soon u will met someone that makes u feel that u are able to give them everything while expecting nothing in return. It is not all about returning.. being able to give without expecting a return is a gift. A gift that i hope most ppl will have.. Its not easy and so dun be discourage and then stop being nice to ppl..
Trust is being build up over years bt just takes a second to get it destroyed. It is very fragile and I can say its all or nothing. Meaning either u trust a person wholeheartedly or u dun trust the person at all. if u trust someone, dun let it be broken. once broken, trust can NVR be rebuild again.
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